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If It’s Not One Thing It’s Another

Excited, Person, Happy, Young, WomanThis expression is sums me up, right now. So lately I have found the old time saying to be remotely true. Literally if it’s not one thing it’s another.

While I have found ways to manage our household schedules, it just feels like if one schedule is spot one something else is going haywire. So I managed to get settled into a schedule where I can cook dinner nightly around football and homework. But then the twins decide that pooping during football is like their poop time. Not a problem right? I’m well prepared, diapers-wipes check. Oh no Shiloh has decided instead of going potty or just saying “I pooped” she needs to take her poop out her diaper. Funny not funny. It’s a stressor because all my attempts to potty train have failed and she knows exactly what she’s doing! So it any of you seasoned moms have some potty training advice send it my way! And make it good enough for twins because even though Samson is not taking his poop out- he won’t go either lol

That’s seems light right? NOT considering my days are long and my professional workload has grown lately. Now I don’t mind a good challenge but I have found myself lately digging deep inside me to muster up the strength I need to keep the house clean, keep the laundry on schedule, stay positive at work, be a good sports mom/Coach (in my mind I’m totally a coach lol), help with homework, remember to write on my writing days, read, eat right, not buy lunch everyday and coffee lol, spend time with my husband  and do my homework.

I promise you there are not enough hours in the day and if it’s not one thing it’s another. Though this may seem like a verbal rant, the reality is- IT IS lol sometimes you just have to let it out. Get strategic and move one. No matter how many things come my way whether all at once or one at a time. I won’t be defeated.

It’s hard as mom to find that balance, keep our footing balanced and the more kids you have the harder it gets. But I just want to encourage some moms that taking things one day at a time is better than trying to juggle everything and dropping some of the balls. Be intentional about not placing unrealistic expectations on yourself. Everyday will come and go, what you accomplish in that day depends on you!

If it’s not one thing it’s another- but those things don’t have to stifle your productivity! Be blessed mommas and let your days be fruitful and less frustrating!

Photo by Robbin Higgins

Keep Your Checklists in Order

While the hustle of the day is fading, work, more work and then football. then grocery shopping, then dinner that I didn’t cook. I sat down and reminded myself. I have to keep my checklists in order. Sometimes as moms we make checklists to keep us on track and nothing on them gets done, well maybe one or two things. I recently laughed at all the post-it note checklists in my purse of things from the week that went from reminders to checklists. I’ll admit some of them didn’t get done. LOL

I had to laugh at myself and say “you need to keep your checklists in order” so I just wanted to share what I have started doing this week that I think will help keep our priorities at the forefront of our checklists and help settle the noise of perfection. Perfection is not the ultimate goal, balance, and peace is the goal. Having a balanced life is incomparable and having peace is immeasurable. Remember that, no matter how old your kids are or how blended you may be, balance and peace goes a long way. Checklists can be great but if they do not bring you balance and peace then what good are they.

  1. Deadline dates, the difference between you completing a task and not completing it is how well you stay on task. Deadlines keep you on task.
  2. Put each list in the order of which you want it done. Prioritization is important, not just in your mind but in your written thoughts as well.
  3. Check them off. Seems like a no-brainer but think about it, if you check the items off your grocery list you don’t leave the store without anything. Same with your tasks, check them off.
  4. Look at them after you make them, it’s so easy to make a checklist at one point in the day then by the end of the day forget about it and never look at it again. I have started stapling them together lol..

Those are simple things that every once and a while we just need a reminder to keep us on task. Especially if you are feeling like things are hectic and you can never catch a break…  Be blessed mommas, may your coffee be strong and your checklists are in order!

Photo credit: Tero Vesalainen

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