Hi Mommas! Ok, I’m just gonna jump right in here and remind us of all of how human and conditional we can be. When things are good we are happy, when things are bad we are sad.
Simple but true, I’ve been thinking a lot lately amiss family emergencies, work discomfort, a little fatigue and a virus that made me feel like my head was going to explode. I’ve been thinking about how we as moms maneuver through highs and lows.
Many times we have highs and lows in our marriages, relationships, ‘situationships’ (you know relationships that aren’t really relationships just yet), friendships, family-ships, and work-ships. And when things are good we are good, when things are low we are low. I pondered on when we will be able to just accept the fact that we are human and have feelings. Now don’t get me wrong I’m all for being strong for the kids and facing your obstacles head-on, BUT what builds resiliency in us and in our kids/families is not our ability to deny our feeling in light of appearing strong enough to take on life’s challenges. Resiliency is built when we allow ourselves to feel and not to wallow in the lows or gloat in the highs.
We as humans are conditional-if the condition is good and makes us feel happy then we are happy. If conditions are low we struggle to get back up and carry on. We need both happiness and struggle sometimes. Happiness produces happiness (if you are unhappy you complain entirely too much about what’s wrong). Struggle produces authenticity and transparency if you let it.
While you are busy being the world’s greatest mom, take heart and know that if you are dow/happy because of a low/Hugh the table will turn one day and whatever the condition you are trying to be resilient and product some authentication.