It’s hard enough to be consistent when life is constantly throwing you curve balls, so why add extra pressure? You can have space to live and love. This year has been nothing short of a roller coaster like it has been for so many people. So I’m dropping a new momfession before the end of the year with the beginning of the year in mind. (Shameless plug from Dr. Willie Patton who ministered at our church this weekend)
I’ve spent most of my year working on the best version of myself as May marked one year since I started a weight loss journey. Now before you stop reading this is not about weight loss. Lol… so keep reading. This is about mental and emotional revitalization. That’s what I’m calling it. Because revitalization is the act or process of giving new life, fresh vitality or energy to someone or something. During this year long process, I started breaking up with things to give new life and fresh vitality to ME. Most personal trainers/weight loss coaches will tell you the physical results you achieve are only one part of the journey. The other half is a mixture of mental and emotional results.
Breaking up with habits becomes less about food over time and more about your mental and your emotional habits. Let me guess, you’re probably wondering what types of habits those are? Ok, so let’s break this down. One the worst mental habits you can have that you have no idea you’re still carrying is the thoughts of rejection and opinions of others. Those are the things that keep you people pleasing and putting yourself on the back burner. So of course, breaking up with that is important and lately that’s what I’ve been doing.
I didn’t think for once I was a people pleaser, but for the people I love sometimes i.e. my kids I was putting myself on the back burner not recognizing that I’m better to them when I’m better to me. I didn’t think for once that I cared about the opinions of others, BUT the more I decided I needed to change the more transparent I got with myself. I had to break up with the thoughts that I couldn’t take care of myself because other people would think I’m a bad mom. Especially if I wasn’t sacrificing myself. Over the course of the last few weeks, I’ve been encouraging myself that in a new time I will NOT go back to these habits but that our breakups are final. I realize pleasing people and the opinions of others are just silent prisons we lock ourselves in as mothers for the sake of acceptance and perfection. The reality is we are not always going to be accepted or perfect. And chasing perfection robs us of the beauty of motherhood. The beauty of loving ourselves and loving our children. At the heart of all that we do they, are the center and we can’t be the mothers God designed us to be like that. (Living with thoughts of rejection and opinions of others)
As I end this momfession and we get ready to end a year, end with the beginning of a new year in mind. Break up with these bad habits and love yourself. Love you children without self-inflicted restraints. No one is judging you. You aren’t obligated to please everyone not even the kids. You are blessed with the chance to keep going without all those things. You are blessed with a set of time to love and live. Be blessed Mommas.
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I think 2022 will be a year for people to look back at their own habits and consider what they should set aside for a better future. Great write-up here!