What to say when your young child asks about the coronavirus

‘Uncertain.’ ‘Unprecedented.’ ‘Challenging.’ These are all terms we’ve heard over and over to describe 2020, but these words are difficult to understand for little ears.

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2020 has been a difficult year for all of us, including our children. The biggest difference, however, is that older children and adults may have a better ability to comprehend what is happening. Young children and toddlers likely know something is wrong, but they are having a difficult time understanding what.

Here are some age-appropriate questions and responses for your toddlers courtesy of zerotothree.org.

  • Why can’t I play with that little boy over there? “We have to take a break from playing with others so we can all stay healthy.”
  • Why can’t I have a turn with that toy? “We can’t play with other children’s toys right now, so we can all stay healthy.”
  • Why are we wiping down everything with wipes? “We wipe things down to keep them clean.” You don’t need to explain more than this—young children don’t understand germs or infection transmission yet.
  • Why is that person wearing a mask? “Sometimes people wear masks when they aren’t feeling well or to help keep them safe so they won’t get sick.” More on this question here.
  • Is the mask a costume? “No, sometimes people wear masks when they are sick or to help keep them safe so they won’t get sick.”

  • Will I get sick? “Everybody gets sick sometimes. If you get sick, Mama/Dada will take care of you until you are all better. The doctors will help you, too.”
  • Why won’t Grandpa (or other loved one) kiss or hug me? Reassure your child that their loved one still loves and cares about them very much. Then you can explain: “When a grown-up has a cold, they can keep others from getting sick by not hugging or kissing for a while. When they feel better and are healthy again, the first thing they’ll do is give you a big kiss!”
  • Why can’t I see mommy (or daddy, grandma, etc.)? If an adult in a child’s life needs to be separate from them, children may feel confused about it. Don’t worry your young child by talking about sickness or quarantine. You can say, “Mommy needs to be away for a little while, but she will be back soon.” Consider ways to stay connected even when physically apart, like video between parent and child. Read more here on making the most of video chat.
  • Why can’t I go to child care/school? “Your child care is closed right now. Your teacher and your friends are home too, just like you. When child care is open again, you can go back and see your friends. I’ll tell you when.” Avoid going into details about illness so toddlers don’t develop fears about attending child care.
  • Why can’t we leave the house? Why can’t my friend come over to play? “Right now, there is a rule that families need to stay home for a little while and be together. That helps us and our friends stay healthy. I know it can be sad when we can’t see and play with friends. But there are lots of fun things we can do together at home! Would you like to play chase or do a puzzle?” Check out our activity guide for play ideas.

And don’t forget to reach out to COAD4Kids if you have additional questions or if you are looking for resources to help guide you through this difficult time.

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